Two readings for Saint Valentine’s

Traditionally, we associate the date February 14th with romantic love. But, have we really

analyzed what true love means, be it romantic or any other kind? Or have we created models for ourselves of what love should be, based on mass media, marketing campaigns, and dysfunctional relations around us?

Much is said about unconditional love, pure love, the love of a lifetime. But if we all have these concepts so clear in our minds, why do we constantly fail at the search for love, why do we trip over, get hurt, and even live with a broken heart, or simply disillusioned of our relationships?

Analyze this: do you love yourself? Do you accept yourself as you really are, with your weaknesses and your strengths? If your answer is ambiguous, or if it is clearly a “no”, or even a “yes” with an implied “but”, then you have identified the key piece of your puzzle. Love, in all of its manifestations, begins with self-love. Our happiness cannot be based on someone else, we can share our happiness with someone else once we learn to see it and manifest it inside ourselves. Placing in the hands of your partner (or parents, children, friends, etc.) the responsibility of making you happy, is not only a devastating weight upon them, it is a task that doesn’t correspond to them. Each of us is responsible of our own happiness, and therefore, each of us is responsible of loving ourselves before anything else.

But, how do we come to achieve the realization of that self-love? There are as many paths as there are people in the world. Because this search is a personal one, independent and internal. It is a journey we undertake through the deepest paths of our soul, in which we must face our own fears, and discover by our own means, the divinity within ourselves. To the extent we understand we are one with the Supreme Being, it becomes impossible not to love ourselves. And when we understand that we are all individual manifestations of that Supreme Being, likewise it becomes impossible not to love the rest of humanity. In this realization resides the door to unconditional love.

letrasThis said, I recommend two books that touch this theme from two very different perspectives. I confess I wrote one of them. But let’s talk first about “Letters of a Writer” (Letras de un Escritor), by my great friend Antonio L. Rivera-Rivera (https://twitter.com/antoniolrivera2). Certainly, the process of writing a book may carry with it the act of undressing one’s heart. This is the case of “Letters of a Writer” (https://www.facebook.com/letrasdeunescritor1/). Those who have invested their lives in the search for love, and its meanings, will identify themselves with this work. This introspection of the meaning of love in three times, demonstrates the author’s gradual process of self-discovery, through his interaction with the different manifestations of what we consider “love” in the different stages of our spiritual development. He opens his heart and allows us to explore it at will, and without realizing it, he guides us to explore ours as well. It is an invitation to reflection, and a practical guide for those who appreciate the value of making silence and daring to listen to the language of their intuition.

On the other hand, my first novel, “El Experimento Chicago” (The Chicago Experiment) (https://www.elexperimentochicago.com), challenges the apparent impossibility of finding unconditional love in the most compromising circumstances of the human being. Through the creation of a tridimensional world that comes to life in the mind of the reader, the story presents a couple of kindred spirits that face a morally questionable situation together, and end up undertaking a journey through the most intimate spots of their souls, which forces them to face their preconceived notions about love. A piece of erotic nature, which at the same time explores sexuality beyond the mere physical act, going from carnal to sublime, from human to sacred, and from the external expression of love, to the internal acknowledgment of our divinity.

In this celebration of Saint Valentine’s, I invite you to look at your reflection in the mirror of your own soul, and to confess your unconditional love to yourself. It is an exercise that will forever change your perspective of love and will open the doors to the incredible power of the most sublime feeling in the universe.

PS. Both books are available at Amazon.com in Spanish, both in paperback format and in digital format. The English versions for both books will be available soon.

The Souls Creation – Soulmates vs Twin Flames

20151011_171429-1-1“In the beginning, God created the heaven and the earth.” Many of us know these words. However, we know little about the creation of our souls. What follows is knowledge I have acquired about this topic from different sources, and through personal experiences with my soulmates. I have tried giving some sense to the different versions I have studied, with the help of my hands-on experience. I do not consider myself an expert on the topic, and on the contrary, I still have a lot to learn. But I am sure someone out there needs to hear this version. I faithfully believe we can all arrive at the same destination taking very different routes. This said, here goes my account.

At the beginning of everything, the creator energy of the Universe (call it God, Allah, Big Bang, etc.), created our souls to its image and likeness. Being such, He/She created them containing both the feminine and the masculine aspects of spirituality. Both manifestations in one same soul: a complete being, a whole. These souls were created in groups with certain attuned characteristics between them, and a mission in common or complementary to each other.

The souls belonging to our group are our soulmates. Therefore, we do not have just one soulmate, but an infinity of them. These are people with which we are going to meet through our different incarnations to accelerate and promote our spiritual growth process. These people manifest in our lives under many different roles, not only in romantic relationships. Your soulmate might be your boyfriend or girlfriend, but it might also be your father, your sister, your son, a co-worker, your best friend, etc. Certainly, these are people with which we feel a special connection, very deep and transcendental.

How many of us have met someone for the first time and felt as if we photostudio_1445834055405knew this person forever? This affinity is not coincidental. You most probably just found one of your soulmates. One of the many you could encounter in the same incarnation. Sometimes, even if you do not catch it on a conscious level, at a spiritual level, your soul and your soulmate’s rejoice in the reencounter, following the separation that took place the moment we incarnated into our tridimensional reality, to which we came to learn what unconditional love is, and to find our way back to being ONE with the creating force of the universe.

Up to this point, we have referred to soulmates exclusively. How were twin flames created then? Let’s go back to the beginning, to the creation. Once we were created in our group, to have the souls incarnate in the tridimensional plane, each of them was divided in its masculine and feminine aspect. Meaning, one soul was sectioned, to call it somehow, in two: the feminine self, and the masculine self (this refers to the spiritual aspect, the being’s energy, not to its sexuality). The purpose of this division is for the same soul to be able to incarnate in two bodies at once, in two different manifestations. To be able to see the 3D world from both the feminine and masculine perspectives, which magnifies the capacity for spiritual development, and the richness of lived experiences. This way, when twin flames are ready to reunite, they will come full of a multitude of experiences that will lead them to achieve illumination through the acceptance of unconditional love.

Since our twin flame is part of ourselves, the bond is much stronger than the one we feel for our soulmates. That’s a lot to say, since I can affirm by my experience, the bond with our soulmates is one full of intense emotions. Generally, twin flames do not reincarnate at once in the same plane of existence. Remember precisely the idea of the division is to multiply the possible experiences, so most of the time, the flames will not find each other for many reincarnations.

People who have heard some about this topic but have not delved into it may tend to think of the twin flame reunion as a scene right out of a “pink” love story. Let me tell you, most of the times, it’s exactly the opposite. Our twin flame, being ourselves in the opposite spiritual manifestation (feminine or masculine), becomes a mirror in which we see ourselves reflected. You and your twin flame share the same strengths, and that attracts you immensely, but you also share the same weaknesses. When we look at ourselves in that mirror, we see everything we need to change and improve in ourselves, but we haven’t had the courage to face. That look into the soul’s mirror can be terrifying to many.

photostudio_1445835066949As a result, relationships between twin flames can become turbulent. There exists a strong attraction none of the parts can deny, and at the same time, there are strong collisions between them. A dynamic begins in which generally one of the flames is obsessed with the other and chases it, while the other flame gets terrified and runs away from the relationship. This is one of the phases in twin flames relationships, known as “Chaser and Runner” stage. Flames will unite and separate in multiple occasions, with the purpose of having each flame work on aspects of its spirituality that still need to be refined, to be able to reunite with the other manifestation of its soul. It is a process of growth and illumination. Because every aspect of the soul must comply with its individual mission before being ready to reunite with its flame and together, comply with their mission in common. Once the twin flames unite for good, they become a light to guide other flames into the path of illumination. With their example of unconditional love, they show the way for those who expose themselves to the beauty of their mere presence.

It is said twin flames find each other in their last reincarnation, once they are ready to finish polishing up on this tridimensional plane, and elevate to a superior plane with the whole. Until recently, it was said these encounters were few and far between, with few cases throughout the planet. However, the vibrational changes the Earth has been going through, seem to have accelerated this process, since more and more people say to be going through this purification. In fact, many support groups have popped up in social media, which try to back up those immersed in the process, which can be very painful, since our ego resists to giving up all bonds and all fears as demanded by the fulfillment of unconditional love. If you believe this is your case, seek help. Going through this process is quite hard, going through this process without even understanding what it is, is even harder. In the end, only you can face your ego and break the chains that bind you. But until you are ready to do so, your support group will be essential.

I hope this information has served as a guide to begin understanding processes you may be going through and wakes up your curiosity for exploring the answers I cannot provide you with because they are inside of you. Dare to explore your soul.

The Best Gift a Mother can Give to Her Kids

mother and daughter

I know I am not traditional. On Mothers’ Day, I’m sure you are used to be told how great you are, how sacrificed your mom profession is, and how much you do for your kids. But today, being as irreverent as I am, I dare to request that you reflect on your role on your kids’ lives.

You’ll see. A lot is said about all that mothers sacrifice for their kids, all mothers nag so their kids will “learn”, and how important it is for a mother to lean over backwards so her kids have certain things, learn certain things, and avoid certain things. Well, let’s examine motherhood in detail.

Turns out mom, and I include myself, women have an extraordinarily special and difficult role. We are interdimensional portals. Wow! That sounds like Star Trek, ¿doesn’t it? Well, we are. We are the vehicle through which a disembodied being, a soul, pure energy, takes a physical tridimensional body and enters in our material reality. Yikes! That sounds hard! Well it is, above all, because the fact we carry those beautiful creatures for nine months inside our wombs, occasionally leads us to think it gives us the right to feel we own them. Nothing furthest from the truth.

Mother, your children came into the world with a purpose (other than cause you stretch marks, gray hair, and end with your hours of sleep for the rest of your life). We all come to this world to learn from the lessons waiting for us, because, if we take advantage of them, they will edify us, and make us better human beings. And that includes your girl, yes, the one that fell in love with that “douche bag” with the pierced tongue, whom you can’t even bear to see. You know what? It is not your place to keep your girl from going through that relationship, and through its possible consecuent love disillusion (although that “douche bag” might as well be a saint. Stop judging people on their appearance!). One thing is to advise her, and explain to her BEFORE falling in love age hits her, all the emotions that she will experience when it happens. And remember, allowing her to watch that soap opera does not count as sentimental education (probably totally the opposite). Now, when the time comes for the girl to fall in love, she will follow her heart or her hormones. There’s nothing you can do to avoid that. For you to get in the way, will only interrupt the divine plan for your girl, and even if you don’t believe it, it delays her spiritual development. Look at it this way, if God sent her that experience, it’s because she can handle it. Remember God will never give us more load than we can bear over our shoulders, and also, he gave us a guardian angel who is willing to take that load off our backs and would carry it for us, as long as we ask for assistance (otherwise, he will respect our free will).

mother-and-sonBut you, boy’s mom, don’t think this doesn’t apply to you. Yes, you, the one worried that her kid the altar boy, the straight A’s student, fell in love with the neighbor’s girl, the low grades student, the one covered in tattoos, who has slept with half the High School boys, and is not what you wish for your kid. I tell you the same, preventing your kid from having this experience, attempts against his mission in life, since you interpose in the divine plan, and also, maybe that girl is the one that will love him more than anyone else in life (except you, of course ;-).

All these desires to keep your kids from having to go through what you went through or what you saw others go through, is not anything else but a reflection of your own fears. Sadly, we tend to inherit our own fears to our offspring. From the fear of cockroaches, frogs, and rats, to more important and transcendental things like fear of failure, disillusion, and rejection. And here lies our greatest challenge: to inherit my kids with the tools to create their own future and their own experiences, and not to “intoxicate” them with that which binds me. I will give you two very simple examples I dare to borrow from that illustrious Venezuelan who is no longer with us physically, but continues educating us through her wonderful literary work: Conny Méndez (If you don’t know her, google her. You will not be sorry to read her “Little Blue Book” (El Librito Azul – Spanish version pdf available online for free). I tried to locate an English version online but wasn’t successful. I’ve been wanting to translate this book into English for several years now. Maybe 2015 is the right time). Conny used these two examples that marked me at 13 years old, when I first read her.

Number one: Why do we tell our kids getting wet in the rain will catch them a cold? Isn’t it
the same as getting wet in the shower? If there is a scientific study showing how getting wet in the rain causes a cold, please, I will appreciate it if you send me this information. Believe me, I already googled it and all I could find was that external stressors might make people more susceptible to getting sick. But science says, people get sick when exposed to virus and bacteria. And if you ask me, I think the local water company’s water has more of those than rain water. Now, our brains are very malleable and trainable, above all in childhood, and it will very likely create the response for which it was programmed since babyhood. So much telling someone they will get sick if they get wet, believe me, their brain will comply and the person will get a cold. Number two: “Boy, stop doing that or you will fall and hit yourself”. May the mom who has never said anything like this (me included) cast the first stone. You know what? The worst of all is not that we are conditioning the kid to fear getting hit, the terrible part is we later tell him: “I told you you’d fall!” Of course he’d fall, since you forecasted it, informed him, nagged him about it, so finally, you convinced him. By this I do not mean you should not stop an unsafety conduct from your kids. That’s not what this is. But how many times have we said that phrase when there is no actual danger. Think about it the next time you are about to use it, and tell me if it was not an exaggeration for the specific situation.

It is important for us to remember our kids came through us, but are not ours. They areyoli dante2 individual entities (at least as long as they are part of this material third dimension), with a soul of their own, a mission of their own, and needs of their own. Your kids did not come to the world to study what you wanted to but never did (and if you are alive, you still can!). Nor did they come to take care of you when you are old (What a selfish myth! True love waits for nothing in return). Nor did they come to become your favorite sport’s star, sport for which he or she doesn’t really care, but you think they will get you out of poverty when they hit the major leagues. By all this I do not mean you cannot fulfill your mission as a mom. Your kids chose you (yes, before crossing the interdimensional portal, they talked about it with God). And they chose you because you are the perfect person to teach them what they need to learn in this life, or maybe, because they come to teach you (and tell me there are no children out there that are old souls, and know more about compassion and unconditional love than many adults). However, this teaching you must offer them, must spring from your love and not from your fears. Give your kids the space to be themselves, to explore their capabilities and spirituality openly and without being judged. And above all things, inherit them a positive mind, teach them to see the good in every situation, and offer them the respect they deserve as human beings. That is the best gift a mother can give to her kids.