The Two Faces of Forgiveness

pointingOn countless occasions, we have heard about the virtues of forgiveness. It is constantly stressed to us the importance of forgiving those who offend us. However, I think there is a very important aspect of forgiveness we constantly ignore: forgiveness has two faces. Yes, because the true act of forgiveness requires, not only forgiving that whom I point at with my index finger as my transgressor, but also that whom I point at with the other three fingers.

In our obsession to see ourselves as victims of circumstances, we forget that in every situation, we have a choice, and thus, a responsibility. We are the architects, the creators of our circumstances, including those in which we have felt offended by someone. In fact, to a large degree, the “offense” takes place when the person who “offends” us does not comply with our expectations of them. Then, doesn’t the “offense” arise from ourselves, from our tendency to give to others expecting something in return, or from our obsession to fit everyone onto our version of the world?

Forgiveness is one of the pillars of unconditional love. It is impossible to love unconditionally and not forgive. But equally, it is impossible to forgive others without forgiving ourselves first. There lies the difference between real forgiveness and forgiveness that arises from ego, and which provides us with a false tranquility because we assume having done what is right by forgiving the other. However, such tranquility is fleeting, and sooner or later, resentments resurge, because we never forgave the other main character in the story: ourselves. Remember as long as we blame others for what happens to us; we yield our power. Once we acknowledge our responsibility within the offense, we get back our power, and we can invest it towards our spiritual growth.

I invite you to reflect upon all those situations in your life in which you felt offended by others, even those instances in which you think you already forgave. Observe your true feelings, analyze the facts, not with your mind, but with your heart. I assure you will be able to identify situations in which, up to now, you had not been honest with yourself, and you had yielded your power, by denying your part of the responsibility. Those are the emotions which hold us back and do not allow us to progress on our spiritual path. Work on them. Forgive yourself, reclaim your power, and above all, love yourself just the way you are. Remember that, in the words of Lewis B. Smedes, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

Two readings for Saint Valentine’s

Traditionally, we associate the date February 14th with romantic love. But, have we really

analyzed what true love means, be it romantic or any other kind? Or have we created models for ourselves of what love should be, based on mass media, marketing campaigns, and dysfunctional relations around us?

Much is said about unconditional love, pure love, the love of a lifetime. But if we all have these concepts so clear in our minds, why do we constantly fail at the search for love, why do we trip over, get hurt, and even live with a broken heart, or simply disillusioned of our relationships?

Analyze this: do you love yourself? Do you accept yourself as you really are, with your weaknesses and your strengths? If your answer is ambiguous, or if it is clearly a “no”, or even a “yes” with an implied “but”, then you have identified the key piece of your puzzle. Love, in all of its manifestations, begins with self-love. Our happiness cannot be based on someone else, we can share our happiness with someone else once we learn to see it and manifest it inside ourselves. Placing in the hands of your partner (or parents, children, friends, etc.) the responsibility of making you happy, is not only a devastating weight upon them, it is a task that doesn’t correspond to them. Each of us is responsible of our own happiness, and therefore, each of us is responsible of loving ourselves before anything else.

But, how do we come to achieve the realization of that self-love? There are as many paths as there are people in the world. Because this search is a personal one, independent and internal. It is a journey we undertake through the deepest paths of our soul, in which we must face our own fears, and discover by our own means, the divinity within ourselves. To the extent we understand we are one with the Supreme Being, it becomes impossible not to love ourselves. And when we understand that we are all individual manifestations of that Supreme Being, likewise it becomes impossible not to love the rest of humanity. In this realization resides the door to unconditional love.

letrasThis said, I recommend two books that touch this theme from two very different perspectives. I confess I wrote one of them. But let’s talk first about “Letters of a Writer” (Letras de un Escritor), by my great friend Antonio L. Rivera-Rivera (https://twitter.com/antoniolrivera2). Certainly, the process of writing a book may carry with it the act of undressing one’s heart. This is the case of “Letters of a Writer” (https://www.facebook.com/letrasdeunescritor1/). Those who have invested their lives in the search for love, and its meanings, will identify themselves with this work. This introspection of the meaning of love in three times, demonstrates the author’s gradual process of self-discovery, through his interaction with the different manifestations of what we consider “love” in the different stages of our spiritual development. He opens his heart and allows us to explore it at will, and without realizing it, he guides us to explore ours as well. It is an invitation to reflection, and a practical guide for those who appreciate the value of making silence and daring to listen to the language of their intuition.

On the other hand, my first novel, “El Experimento Chicago” (The Chicago Experiment) (https://www.elexperimentochicago.com), challenges the apparent impossibility of finding unconditional love in the most compromising circumstances of the human being. Through the creation of a tridimensional world that comes to life in the mind of the reader, the story presents a couple of kindred spirits that face a morally questionable situation together, and end up undertaking a journey through the most intimate spots of their souls, which forces them to face their preconceived notions about love. A piece of erotic nature, which at the same time explores sexuality beyond the mere physical act, going from carnal to sublime, from human to sacred, and from the external expression of love, to the internal acknowledgment of our divinity.

In this celebration of Saint Valentine’s, I invite you to look at your reflection in the mirror of your own soul, and to confess your unconditional love to yourself. It is an exercise that will forever change your perspective of love and will open the doors to the incredible power of the most sublime feeling in the universe.

PS. Both books are available at Amazon.com in Spanish, both in paperback format and in digital format. The English versions for both books will be available soon.

Reiki, a Very Singular Gift

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I truly believe when the student is ready, the teacher arrives. Also, at the right moment, vocations one might have never contemplated before in one’s journey, suddenly wake up. That is how Reiki came into my life. The day I was invited to participate in the level one certification course, I didn’t have a clear view of what I was getting into. But I immediately knew Reiki was for me.

Reiki is an energetic healing system, where Universal Energy is transmitted through the imposition of hands and other techniques. The word Reiki, of Japanese origin, is divided into two significant syllables:

Rei = Spirit, Universal Energy

Ki = Vital Force, Radiant Energy

In other words, Reiki means Universal Vital Energy. One of the questions that generally crosses the mind of those exposed to this subject for the first time is this: Is Reiki a religion or is it associated with a religion? The answer is no. This is one of the great advantages of this system and the main reason it captivated me immediately. Everybody can benefit from Reiki healing, no matter what creed they profess, or even if they do not have any religious belief at all. The Reiki healer becomes an instrument in the service of the light, through the manipulation or rather the concentration of that universal life energy, in benefit of the patient’s health. It is the patient who decides how to call the source of that universal energy, according to his or her belief system, be it God, Allah, etc., if the patient so wishes. Truth is, no matter what label is imposed onto it, the effect is the same, since what gives Reiki its strength to work is the positive intention of the Reiki healer towards the patient. Once the healer allows those energies to use her/him as a vehicle, the laws of the universe take control and act in all of their wisdom. Hence, it is very important for the Reiki healer to respect his/her patients’ beliefs, and to allow the energy to do its job.

Mikao Usui

Reiki is based in ancient wisdom that was once lost to oblivion. The system was rediscovered by Mikao Usui, Japanese doctor, and teacher who for ten years, completely dedicated his life to searching the answer to the following question: How did the great teachers such as Jesus Christ and Buddha, among others, were able to heal others through the imposition of hands? His search led him to deeply study the different religions and to travel to Buddhist monasteries in Japan until he found an ancient Sanskrit writing from Tibet. After 21 days of meditation and fasting, Usui received the answer he ‎sought. That is how this ancestral knowledge is revived and as of today, it is practiced around the world, with excellent results. Even some traditional medicine hospitals have integrated Reiki as part of their therapy offerings since they recognize the positive impact on the patient’s recovery time.

You may be asking yourself, what are the uses and benefits of Reiki? One of the major benefits is, it not only works at a physical level, treating the different disharmonies in the body’s systems, but also acts upon the mental, emotional, and spiritual levels. At a mental level, Reiki helps us rid ourselves of negative models ingrained in our subconscious, many times themselves the source of the physical discomfort we are experiencing. At the emotional level, Reiki therapy facilitates healing of emotive problems and liberates us from repressed or stagnant emotions, restoring equilibrium, and liberating us from fears. At the spiritual level, Reiki elevates our consciousness and our vibrations, facilitating our reconnection with our Higher Self.

Therefore, Reiki is highly effective among many other uses, as a relaxation method, for pain management, for improving the immune system, recovering from illness or surgery, overcoming phobias, fears and vices, improving efficacy of traditional medicines and minimizing their side effects, cleaning the body of toxins, improving sexual performance, helping terminal patients to physically and spiritually prepare for the death process, and for treating conditions such as anxiety, stress, musculoskeletal disorders, tiredness, insomnia. In short, Reiki is effective in treating any physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual condition. It is important to note that Reiki has no negative side effects. Also, its positive effects are accumulative, and therefore, it is recommended to expose oneself to several treatments.

Another one of the major advantages of Reiki is, it cannot only be applied for healing people, but it is highly effective on animals and plants as well. Moreover, Reiki can be applied to situations, therefore allowing us to direct Reiki energy towards the healing of countries, conflicts, etc. In addition, Reiki therapy can be offered as distance healing, if necessary.

What can I expect when I expose myself to a Reiki therapy for the first time? Although it can be

practiced anywhere and in any position, generally the therapy takes place in a relaxed atmosphere, laying on a massage table, similar to what you would see on a spa or traditional massage practice. The Reiki practitioner may use, to her/his discretion, elements to assist the patient in the relaxation process, such as music, or aromatherapy. The healer will impose her hands on key energy points on your body, keeping them at each point as long as she deems necessary, according to the needs of each patient. If you prefer not to be touched directly, your Reiki therapist may apply the treatment keeping his hands at a short distance from the body, obtaining the same results. Also, assistive tools may be used in the process, such as quartz crystals, Tibetan singing bowls, chromotherapy (color therapy), among others, which, although may be of great benefit in the healing process, are certainly not indispensable at all: only Reiki energy and good will are.

A Reiki therapy session generally last between 30 to 90 minutes, and can have a cost of $45 to $100, approximately what you would pay for a traditional massage session, but with much greater and transcendental benefits. I would like to make clear the monetary exchange between therapist and patient must not always take place. While it is true some people offer Reiki as their means of providing for their material needs (which is perfectly fine and positive), there are Reiki practitioners who may offer therapy in exchange for other ways of remuneration, be it trading of professional services or goods, or simply for spiritual knowledge.

It is important pointing out that in the Reiki process, both patient and therapist are benefited. For the therapist, being initiated in this road represents a transcendental life change, where he will guide his behavior by the Reiki principles, in a constant search for spiritual development, at the service of others. Reiki will become a lifestyle for the practitioner, and an integral part of her day to day.

Remember as with anything under the sun, there are not so serious individuals who call themselves Reiki therapist, who do not have the knowledge or the right intentions. As with any other service, you would seek, investigate first about the therapist’s reputation, his training, and his results. Even though Reiki is not regulated by any agency or entity, several ramifications and schools exist, and your therapist should be certified by at least one of them, be it of Japanese or Tibetan origin. My advice is, in addition to your research onto your therapist’s lineage, listen to your intuition above anything else. If you do not feel comfortable with your therapist, find another one. However, do not judge Reiki results on only one session, since sometimes it takes a while to notice tangible results, and also, do not think the therapy did not have the desired effect if you feel sad afterward. Sometimes, sadness is part of the healing process. Use your good judgment, and listen to your inner voice.

I hope to have awakened your curiosity about Reiki, and your wish to experience the amazing benefits this practice has to offer. Whether you would like to receive a Reiki therapy, or to become a therapist, I invite you to open yourself to the infinite possibilities the universe offers for the improvement of your quality of life at all levels, and above all, for you to find yourself. In the words of Master Usui: “Look inside, enter the silence, and listen to your heart.”

The Souls Creation – Soulmates vs Twin Flames

20151011_171429-1-1“In the beginning, God created the heaven and the earth.” Many of us know these words. However, we know little about the creation of our souls. What follows is knowledge I have acquired about this topic from different sources, and through personal experiences with my soulmates. I have tried giving some sense to the different versions I have studied, with the help of my hands-on experience. I do not consider myself an expert on the topic, and on the contrary, I still have a lot to learn. But I am sure someone out there needs to hear this version. I faithfully believe we can all arrive at the same destination taking very different routes. This said, here goes my account.

At the beginning of everything, the creator energy of the Universe (call it God, Allah, Big Bang, etc.), created our souls to its image and likeness. Being such, He/She created them containing both the feminine and the masculine aspects of spirituality. Both manifestations in one same soul: a complete being, a whole. These souls were created in groups with certain attuned characteristics between them, and a mission in common or complementary to each other.

The souls belonging to our group are our soulmates. Therefore, we do not have just one soulmate, but an infinity of them. These are people with which we are going to meet through our different incarnations to accelerate and promote our spiritual growth process. These people manifest in our lives under many different roles, not only in romantic relationships. Your soulmate might be your boyfriend or girlfriend, but it might also be your father, your sister, your son, a co-worker, your best friend, etc. Certainly, these are people with which we feel a special connection, very deep and transcendental.

How many of us have met someone for the first time and felt as if we photostudio_1445834055405knew this person forever? This affinity is not coincidental. You most probably just found one of your soulmates. One of the many you could encounter in the same incarnation. Sometimes, even if you do not catch it on a conscious level, at a spiritual level, your soul and your soulmate’s rejoice in the reencounter, following the separation that took place the moment we incarnated into our tridimensional reality, to which we came to learn what unconditional love is, and to find our way back to being ONE with the creating force of the universe.

Up to this point, we have referred to soulmates exclusively. How were twin flames created then? Let’s go back to the beginning, to the creation. Once we were created in our group, to have the souls incarnate in the tridimensional plane, each of them was divided in its masculine and feminine aspect. Meaning, one soul was sectioned, to call it somehow, in two: the feminine self, and the masculine self (this refers to the spiritual aspect, the being’s energy, not to its sexuality). The purpose of this division is for the same soul to be able to incarnate in two bodies at once, in two different manifestations. To be able to see the 3D world from both the feminine and masculine perspectives, which magnifies the capacity for spiritual development, and the richness of lived experiences. This way, when twin flames are ready to reunite, they will come full of a multitude of experiences that will lead them to achieve illumination through the acceptance of unconditional love.

Since our twin flame is part of ourselves, the bond is much stronger than the one we feel for our soulmates. That’s a lot to say, since I can affirm by my experience, the bond with our soulmates is one full of intense emotions. Generally, twin flames do not reincarnate at once in the same plane of existence. Remember precisely the idea of the division is to multiply the possible experiences, so most of the time, the flames will not find each other for many reincarnations.

People who have heard some about this topic but have not delved into it may tend to think of the twin flame reunion as a scene right out of a “pink” love story. Let me tell you, most of the times, it’s exactly the opposite. Our twin flame, being ourselves in the opposite spiritual manifestation (feminine or masculine), becomes a mirror in which we see ourselves reflected. You and your twin flame share the same strengths, and that attracts you immensely, but you also share the same weaknesses. When we look at ourselves in that mirror, we see everything we need to change and improve in ourselves, but we haven’t had the courage to face. That look into the soul’s mirror can be terrifying to many.

photostudio_1445835066949As a result, relationships between twin flames can become turbulent. There exists a strong attraction none of the parts can deny, and at the same time, there are strong collisions between them. A dynamic begins in which generally one of the flames is obsessed with the other and chases it, while the other flame gets terrified and runs away from the relationship. This is one of the phases in twin flames relationships, known as “Chaser and Runner” stage. Flames will unite and separate in multiple occasions, with the purpose of having each flame work on aspects of its spirituality that still need to be refined, to be able to reunite with the other manifestation of its soul. It is a process of growth and illumination. Because every aspect of the soul must comply with its individual mission before being ready to reunite with its flame and together, comply with their mission in common. Once the twin flames unite for good, they become a light to guide other flames into the path of illumination. With their example of unconditional love, they show the way for those who expose themselves to the beauty of their mere presence.

It is said twin flames find each other in their last reincarnation, once they are ready to finish polishing up on this tridimensional plane, and elevate to a superior plane with the whole. Until recently, it was said these encounters were few and far between, with few cases throughout the planet. However, the vibrational changes the Earth has been going through, seem to have accelerated this process, since more and more people say to be going through this purification. In fact, many support groups have popped up in social media, which try to back up those immersed in the process, which can be very painful, since our ego resists to giving up all bonds and all fears as demanded by the fulfillment of unconditional love. If you believe this is your case, seek help. Going through this process is quite hard, going through this process without even understanding what it is, is even harder. In the end, only you can face your ego and break the chains that bind you. But until you are ready to do so, your support group will be essential.

I hope this information has served as a guide to begin understanding processes you may be going through and wakes up your curiosity for exploring the answers I cannot provide you with because they are inside of you. Dare to explore your soul.

Healers, Psychics, Past Lives, and Twin Flames – My Personal Cocktail

Reiki Level 2I have recently been certified as a Reiki Level 2 healer. If you’d asked me six months ago what Reiki was, I would had probably told you it was some kind of relaxing massage therapy. However, once you open to the infinite possibilities the Universe offers, and you accept you have a higher calling and a mission you have been entrusted with, one only you can fulfill, everything stars falling into place on its own.

At the beginning of the year, I was miserably surviving at a job I hated, and I finally decided it was time to close that door, and start doing something that actually made me happy. Since it was a big decision leaving a job that paid well and had decent benefits, to sit home and write a novel, I thought it was a good idea to visit my psychic before embarking in this new adventure. Besides all the chronicles of announced deaths she pointed out, there were two highlights in her session that really hit me: “Your mission has to do with finding what unites human beings, despite their ideology differences” and “You are a psychic, we all are, but you are a strong psychic, and you should develop your talent”.

The FoolKnowing my psychic for some years now and trusting her instincts and good intentions, I decided to open myself up to anything and everything that came my way. I enrolled in a Tarot course, and I made an appointment to get a past life regression. During the Tarot course, one of the participants complained about feeling affected by an energy in the room. My psychic asked if any of us had been trained in Reiki. Three persons stood up, and they began cleaning the woman’s aura, while the psychic sang a beautiful healing song. That was my first real encounter with Reiki. A week later, “out of the blue”, I received a call from my cousin, telling me her Yoga Sensei was hosting a Reiki Master at her academy, to offer a Reiki Level 1 course, and they needed one more participant to complete the group. And that’s how Reiki found me.

I immediately fell in love. As soon as the Master said Reiki was not affiliated to any religion or creed, and everybody could benefit from the healing power of the Universal Energy, regardless if they believed it came from God, Allah, Buddha, the Angels, Ascended Masters, Saints, the Force,  quantum physics, or any other positive source, I knew Reiki was part of my mission. It all came so naturally to me as well. Of course, my past life regression would make it easy to understand, since I had been a healer before, and paid dearly for it (but that’s another story, and someday it will make a heck of a novel).

twin-flames-telepathy-2Last week, I completed the Reiki Level 2 course, which makes me a Reiki healer, officially. This six months have been full of transformation for me. All the little and big details have been falling into place. My mission has been revealing to me like never before, the right people has come knocking on my door. I have been going through a purification process at all levels. My writing, Reiki, psychic powers development, past life memories, all have been preparing me for what’s to come: help others through their challenges with twin flame ascension process. Because, besides all I have mentioned before, another huge process has been filling my days: I have been immersed in a twin flame ascension crash course, and learning about it the hard way! It has been a haunted house/roller coaster from heaven and hell kind of experience, which has ultimately thought me my first lessons on unconditional love. What a ride this has been, and to think this is just the beginning! But despite all the tears I’ve shed, all the times I’ve thought I have gone insane and have been tempted to walk myself into the psych ward, I am really happy I am going through this, and even more, knowing my lessons will give me the tools to help others; that is priceless.

I expect to be writing about twin flames a lot in the future, besides making some videos, and well, turns out the book I have been writing has to do with the theme all along, although I had no idea when I began writing the first kinky notes in a little notebook at work back in January. For those who are intrigued by the twin flame phenomena, I will soon write a piece on what it is, and what it is not, beginning with making sure you understand the difference between a soulmate and a twin flame, terms which are wrongly used as synonyms.

My life has changed drastically, and will keep changing.  Changing for the good! I have found my north. I have been working hard on rediscovering self-love, the first requisite to be able to love others, which ultimately will help me be a better me, a better mom, a better friend, a better human being. I hope sharing my journey with you will help you open up to your own mission, to listening to your call, waking up from the illusion of separation, and finally realizing we are all in this together because we are all ONE.

When my dream is not “just a dream”, how do I interpret it?

dream01Scientist are not sure why we dream. Truth is we do, and many times we don’t even remember a thing the next morning (which could be corrected with training). However, every now and then, we wake up with a very vivid image and quite extensive recollection of details. Such dreams cannot be disregarded as a mere function of the brain sorting through the information collected during waking hours, as some scientists would have us believe. Dreams are urgent messages from our Higher Self. Clues to help us overcome obstacles, make decisions we have been postponing, prepare ourselves for changes to come, and so on.

Some of the greatest minds known to mankind admitted to have been illuminated in dreams. Albert Einstein discovered relativity and the E=MC2 equation following a dream where he was hurtling down a mountainside.  Paul McCartney admitted he woke up from a dream with the melody for the 1965 song by the Beatles, “Yesterday” in his head, to a point he couldn’t believe he had written it, because it was practically handed to him. Writer Mary Shelley was inspired to pen “Frankenstein” from a dream she had after being challenged by Lord Byron to write a horror story. Chemist Dmitri Mendeleev discovered the logical way to organize chemical elements, the periodic table, during a dream in which he saw the elements falling into place as required.

dream02What do all these experiences have in common? They have all tapped into the collective unconscious. The term was coined by Carl Jung, father of analytical psychology, and refers to the structures of the unconscious mind shared among the members of the same species. In Jung’s own words, the collective unconscious encompasses the soul of humanity at large.  This is what some of us know as the Akashic Records, a collection of knowledge, located in a non-physical plane of existence, where all information, all experiences and possibilities (past, present and future), every thought, word and action of every being, from all over the cosmos, are stored. The possibility of tapping into these records is not limited to a certain kind of person. All of us can do this, and most actually do, sometimes without even knowing, although we can consciously train to do so.  The easiest way is of course, by analyzing the content of our dreams.

There is not just one way to interpret dreams. Their meaning is very personal, since symbols mean different things to different people. A good place to start though, is a dreams dictionary, which are available in paper, online, and even as apps for your mobile. These will offer you a basic understanding of what individual images or symbols might mean. To better understand the process as I like approaching it, this is what I usually do when asked by a friend for a dream interpretation:

  1. Collect as much details as you can from what you saw. Pay special attention to:
    • Objects – items you saw, how they looked, if some characteristic stood out, such as dimension or color. For example, if you see water in your dream, it does make a huge difference if you saw clean or dirty water.
    • People – if you actually knew them or not, what they wore, what they told you, if there is anything odd about them. For example, it makes a difference if you see your brother, wearing a bathing suit vs a military uniform.
    • Places – Where the dream took place gives you valuable clues for deeper meaning. It means one thing to see yourself in the kitchen, and a very different one, if you stay in the bedroom.
    • Time – The season, the time of day.
  2. Look for the meaning of each individual symbol in a dreams dictionary.
  3. Add any specific meaning you might have for a symbol to your data. For instance, even though bears usually symbolize independence, strength, and the cycle of life, this symbol might have a different meaning to you personally, if you are a Chicago Bears fan.
  4. Think of any references to your everyday life situations, or any lingering questions you may have, or what you were worried about or just thinking about just before going to sleep. The dream might be an answer to any of those.
  5. Listen to you inner voice, to that gut feeling that tells you if what you are thinking is going in the right direction. Be open to possibilities.
  6. Combine all ingredients, and stir. Voila!

Your Higher Self sends you these messages so you can live the life you are meant to. Therefore, the messages your dreams convey, come from a place of love. They will give you a wider view of your reality and help you make wiser choices, and much needed changes.  As with anything else in life, practice makes perfect, and your dream interpretation will become more accurate as you go along. I invite you to try it. You will be taking advantage of valuable information to make your journey through your waking life more significant and satisfying.

Loving ourselves just the way we are

How many times have you looked at yourself in the mirror and have not recognized the person you see? This becomes very common when we disconnect from our bodies, mainly because we do not like what the mirror presents.

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Looking good is an obsession of our times. We are constantly bombarded with images of impossible bodies, many of which have become so thin by extracting ribs and other risky medical procedures. I do understand some procedures are necessary, when a person’s health is at imminent risk due to their excess weight. Those are not the cases I am referring to.  But I am sure you all know someone who is constantly complaining about the way they look, and you just cannot understand why, for they look just fine to you.

We have unreal expectations, wanting to look in real life like a model who has been airbrushed in the magazine’s pictures. Worse than that? We have a very perverted idea of what beauty is in the first place. External beauty is like fashion: the concepts come and go with time, just like bell-bottoms. Don’t believe me? Just check out the art of the Renaissance, where women were depicted as is, including love handles and cellulite.  That was in and sexy, considered a sign of health and fertility. Therefore, if parameters for external beauty are as changing as the weather, how are we supposed to keep up with the standards? Actually, we are not! The moment we understand that concept, we liberate ourselves from a heavy burden.

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The Three Graces – Peter Paul Rubens (1639)

Consider this: how would the state of the human consciousness change if people invested just one fourth of the time they spend worrying about their external looks, actually taking care of their internal self? See, the thing is, the more you cultivate your internal beauty, the better you look on the outside! When you feel good about yourself, you emanate a beautiful energy that is perceived by others. That, in turn, makes you a beautiful person, appreciated by others for WHO you are, not for your measurements, height, and weight combination.

Accepting our bodies as they are, is the first step to actually attaining the changes you want. It’s the law of attraction, for it permeates and applies to everything in our lives. See, it’s OK to want to lose weight, but we have to start by being grateful for what we have TODAY. This body that you despise so much, is the one that has blessed you with all the emotions (positive and negative) that you have felt so far. Even if it looked different at some other point, it is still the same body; you didn’t move into a new host. How could we not be thankful for this marvelous perfect machine that allows us a 3D/4D experience to help us grow?

Once we are grateful for what we have, we can picture our bodies as we want them to look (visualization). One piece of advice though: go about this with the right intentions. Change your eating habits, not because you want to lose 30 pounds in 30 days and make your ex repent from leaving you. Change your eating habits because you understand it will help you be healthier, have more energy, and feel happier. Don’t begin an exercise program because your co-worker gets more attention from the boss due to her awesome figure. Begin an exercise program for its physical and mental benefits. See, the mindset is a very powerful tool. And everything in life is about intention. The purpose behind your actions DO matter greatly.

One thing is for sure, once you begin showing your body you love it as it is right now, you open the door for wonderful transformations. Go ahead, look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you look! Concentrate on those features of your body you actually like the most, and enjoy looking at them and celebrating them. I assure you this exercise will boost your self-esteem and help you overcome your complexes.

Remember, external beauty as sold by Hollywood is just a standardized measurement, like the SAT’s. And there is nothing standard about human beings. We are unique expressions of God’s love, and we are to appreciate our differences and particularities, for they make us WHO WE ARE.